If you are friend or partner of a victim or rape

If someone you care about has been raped or sexually assaulted, you may also have been affected.

You may feel powerless and frustrated and you may feel confused about how you can help your friend or partner. Understanding and working through your own feelings will allow you to help and support them.

You can support someone by:

  • Listening to them and not asking for details. They may not want to tell you everything that happened.
  • Don’t ask why the assault or rape happened.
  • Respect their decisions on whether they want to report it or not. It is their decision to make.
  • Be patient and don’t tell them to forget all about what has happened and put it the past.
  • Believe them.
  • Allow them to demonstrate their feelings by crying if that is what they need to do, even if their crying might upset you.